Dating a guy who never had a girlfriend
He was sweet and upbeat, talkative and seemingly driven.I nodded along to his stories as I took bites of my pasta, methodically peppering him with questions while revealing very little about myself.
These men would retreat often, pushing me away, before returning with more promises about the kind of guy they were, sprinkling pretty words all over my tattered heart. Only I defined and chose my type, my type did not choose me, and I had the power to turn the tides. It also dawned on me that I hadn’t been called upon to “solve” any of their problems.He doesn't know how to effectively communicate his feelings or what to do when you try to effectively communicate your feelings. She's so happy he finally found someone that takes him off her hands. - Parents just don't get why you are so special to each other. He learns after a while, but the first few times are rough. He accidentally punches your face and thinks a stranger is in his room. He makes me feel wanted and doesn't think he'll ever let me go.She texts you all the time to make sure he's alive and she tries to get you to reinforce everything she's been telling him for his whole life. If you get married, he will have never loved another woman. From awkward pats on the back to stammering over what words to use, he has no idea what you want or need from him. He has a giant toothy smile because it's the first time he's felt romantically comfortable with another person and he loves it so much. Historically, I’d tossed my energy at whatever my whims desired, and these characteristics—charming, confident, successful, witty—usually depleted me of my otherwise healthy self-esteem.As I mentally leafed through the pages of that dating history, reflecting on the type of guys that I had chosen, a frightening pattern of similarities emerged.